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Published : January 06, 2010 |
Author : Amy Twain
Category : Self Improvement | Total Views
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 Amy Twain
The author of this article Amy Twain is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem overnight. More info about this “Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You” is available at http://www.FabulousSelfEsteem.com.
The author invites you to visit:
http://www.innerzine.com
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Because of insecurity, thousands of individuals
often wallow in depression. In this state of insecurity, you might find
it difficult to concentrate or focus on or allow yourself to enjoy
feelings of achievement as emotions of self-judgment then emerge.
Negative sentiments such as “why push ahead if I never get anywhere,
anyway?” shows low self esteem and lack of self confidence. Talking to
yourself in a hard way brings forth unhealthy and defeating attitude.
When you begin to ignore the positive or optimistic feelings linked
with achievement, it is so easy to sway back into negative self-talk
and damage your success.
When you punish or chastise yourself by focusing on past failures
rather than past accomplishments, it keeps you in the gloom of
nothingness and uncertainty where there is no opportunity for aiming
high. Why harshly criticize yourself or anyone else? Insecurity is a
very self-destructive behavior. Criticizing yourself severely weakens
your achievements and your growth at the same time. Belittling or
undermining the triumphs of other people creates invisible barriers to
warm rapport and relations, making it tough to accept situations which
foster opportunities and positive growth. It is very unnecessary and
self sabotaging to blame and judge yourself just because you weren’t
able to influence other people’s feelings and thoughts.
When you’re too busy in attempting to control external factors, then
you might not be in command of yourself. Lack of confidence and
feelings of insecurity could compel you to attempt to control external
events, including others. For instance, attempting to manipulate the
way a person feels about you could be so overwhelming, not to mention
frustrating. Of course, you cannot command or influence other peoples
feelings, but you could always be in control of the way you react or
respond toward them. When your sense of security and confidence are
inadequate, you may inflict a retreat on yourself to avoid taking risks
or challenges.
When a very successful or triumphant event does happen, you might
conclude that it’s just sheer luck. Beliefs and self-talk like “In
spite of my efforts, there’s still no effect on the outcome,” might
stem from past programmed concepts and ideas which you received from
disparaging other individuals. Endeavoring to impact everyone or
everything around you, instead of handling your own behavior and
emotions, weakens your consciousness and self growth. It reinforces
more insecurity on your part. The point there is trying not to focus
too hard on stopping others on their road to success, but instead to
focus on your own achievements and personal growth.
Concentrate on enhancing your strengths to be more optimistic and
delighted. Work on appreciating and recognizing your talents and
competencies (kindness, endurance, candidness, positivity) that are
always there within you. When you motivate and empower your body and
mind to build your skills and resources, you strengthen and solidify
your commitment to aspire higher. Anti-insecurity Advice 1: Each day
when you wake up, ask yourself “What good things I could do today?” Do
the same everyday. Anti-insecurity Advice 2: Always be thankful for
what you have.
About The Author
The author of this article Amy Twain is a
Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding
clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course
on how to boost your Self Esteem overnight. More info about this
“Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You” is available at http://www.FabulousSelfEsteem.com.
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